Metaphors Flying free knowing there is always a light house to guide me to where I choose to fly.


I can only remember the darkness between the waves. The cracking sounds of the wind smacking two waves against each other, the water slapping my face, the salt on my lips, and my little arms grasping onto the side of the rubber boat, not bigger than the length of my legs. The storm wrenching me further and further from the marina, away from the coast, away from those two giant fantom mountains bordering the village of Cadaques in the Pyrenees ranges. The dark waves swallowing me…
Past the fear to be devoured, taken away, forgotten, ignored, rejected…from wave to wave. After confronting my demons, carried on the crisp of a wave, I notice in the distance the light flickering from the light house, bigger, then smaller, then bigger again… And as I get bursted around into the nowhere I notice the light is always here. And this is all I focus on…before the black hole.
Out of nowhere I hear a sound. Out of nowhere a hand grasps me. “You are safe” … I find myself holding tight onto this stranger perplexed fisherman who is completely stunned having found a little 5 year old girl grasping onto a rubber kid boat, on his road back to port, apparently kilometres from the Spanish Coast.

From Fear to Trust
I was reflecting on the power of metaphors in our life, and this 50 year old memory resurfaced with this realisation: could the flickering light from a far away light house have shifted my state, created the magic and saved my life?
How many times in our life do we feel out of control, in up and down waves carrying us out and away into the ocean of life, having forgotten or not even knowing where the coast is?
What would it take to see the flickering light and know with certainty that you are not lost? Knowing, choosing, designing your own light house, so you can always find your way to your chosen destination. I love this metaphor that, as a coach I am the fisherman who lifts you up, helps you choose your destination and supports you back to the port.
And what if in the process, you could wake up the alchemist in you, who has the power to use the storm as a propellor to take you faster where you didn’t dare to go? What if the flickering light ignited in you a new passion for life and you took the risk to enjoy the journey?
As I write these words, I feel a strong emotion rising in me, as I suddenly realise how this defining terrifying moment might have been a gift in my life…

How are you speaking to yourself? What metaphors are you using to describe the events in your life? What do those metaphors mean to you? Are they empowering or disempowering you?
You are the alchemist who has the power to choose metaphors now and create a new meaning and a new world full of possibilities for you.

I would love for you to share this. As you read my experience and what it means to me now, how can you change the meaning of your stumbles and/or your biggest fears, to make them the stepping stones to your success?

Build a life, don’t live one!


“The ideas I stand for are not mine. I borrowed them from Socrates. I swiped them from Chesterfield. I stole them from Jesus. And I put them in a book. If you don’t like their rules, whose would you use?” – Dale Carnegie.

Wise Ashton Kutcher, after portraying Steve Jobs in a recent movie, started his acceptance speech for his Teen Choice Award with the following words “ Build a life, don’t live one”.

We live a life by creating a reality around us, which doesn’t support us. Much of what we think is true is a misinterpretation we have made from experiences in our life or from experiences of our parents, teachers and culture we live in… and we become those assumptions. Those positive or negative expectations about ourselves, others and circumstances become our unconscious beliefs.

We start looking for things that reinforce our interpretations. And we create our self-fulfilling prophecies based on how we see the world.

We have the choice to challenge those unbalanced beliefs, which do not serve us.

How do you build a life?

Dale Carnegie, who starts his life in 1888 as a poor farmer’s boy, also wrote: “Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions: it is governed by our mental attitude”. Until we rewrite or re-interpret those child assumptions we have made (most often when we were just a child), we continue to suffer and struggle, moving further from what we really want in life.

We become addicted to those emotions of anger or fear.

We go through life guided by those negative emotions rather than our true intuition (based on love).
In my belief, happiness is a decision. Examining the untruth and gaining a new perspective, allows us to change the interpretation from our past (and our future) in a way that support us, and to gradually live free from those addictive negative emotions. With this new awareness, we can create a new vision of “Who” we decide to be. We start making choices that guides us to the places and circumstances where we live from this new vision. As our emotions start to change, so are the circumstances and people we will attract and allow in our life. We become more empowered, we grow, and we take more actions … soon we becoming aligned with our new vision.

I borrowed the introduction from Dale Carnegie, so he might as well write the conclusion:
“Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.” – Dale Carnegie.
My passion is to help you do just that!