“The ideas I stand for are not mine. I borrowed them from Socrates. I swiped them from Chesterfield. I stole them from Jesus. And I put them in a book. If you don’t like their rules, whose would you use?” – Dale Carnegie.
Wise Ashton Kutcher, after portraying Steve Jobs in a recent movie, started his acceptance speech for his Teen Choice Award with the following words “ Build a life, don’t live one”.
We live a life by creating a reality around us, which doesn’t support us. Much of what we think is true is a misinterpretation we have made from experiences in our life or from experiences of our parents, teachers and culture we live in… and we become those assumptions. Those positive or negative expectations about ourselves, others and circumstances become our unconscious beliefs.
We start looking for things that reinforce our interpretations. And we create our self-fulfilling prophecies based on how we see the world.
We have the choice to challenge those unbalanced beliefs, which do not serve us.
How do you build a life?
Dale Carnegie, who starts his life in 1888 as a poor farmer’s boy, also wrote: “Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions: it is governed by our mental attitude”. Until we rewrite or re-interpret those child assumptions we have made (most often when we were just a child), we continue to suffer and struggle, moving further from what we really want in life.
We become addicted to those emotions of anger or fear.
We go through life guided by those negative emotions rather than our true intuition (based on love).
In my belief, happiness is a decision. Examining the untruth and gaining a new perspective, allows us to change the interpretation from our past (and our future) in a way that support us, and to gradually live free from those addictive negative emotions. With this new awareness, we can create a new vision of “Who” we decide to be. We start making choices that guides us to the places and circumstances where we live from this new vision. As our emotions start to change, so are the circumstances and people we will attract and allow in our life. We become more empowered, we grow, and we take more actions … soon we becoming aligned with our new vision.
I borrowed the introduction from Dale Carnegie, so he might as well write the conclusion:
“Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.” – Dale Carnegie.
My passion is to help you do just that!